Got your Bitmoji yet?
Your Bitmoji is your own person emoji, your cartoon version of yourself that you can share on Snapchat and in text messages. Like this:
I sent mine to my husband and immediately he wanted one! So now, we’re a Bitmoji family.
And wow, I’ve discovered it’s a great way to parent! Well, to supplement my parenting.
I have a 13 year old at home. He spends a lot of time in his room, listening to his music, playing Fortnite, Snapchatting and Facetiming his friends. I know it’s his age. I’m not too worried. I did the same thing: I spent hours in my room with my door closed, doing my thing, listening to my music, and holding up the only phone line in the house with 3-hour phone calls with my BFF.
It’s as though at 13 they enter a phase where communication with anyone over 16 is impossible, like we speak a different language.
So, I started speaking his.
I sent him a Snapchat from work the other day, saying I’d be home late. Would he start dinner?
He responded. Sure his return Snapchat was a picture of his forehead down to his rolling eyes. But he responded! And he started dinner!
As with most teens, their capacity to pick up after themselves is limited. I recall, at around age 15, I had a plate of food in my room that got pushed under my bed…until I found it weeks (?) later. It was almost unrecognizable.
My parents would be on my case constantly about cleaning my room. I rarely listened (as the example above illustrates). I’m guessing that’s where he gets it. So I tried my new parenting tool:
And miraculously, when I arrived home from work, he even had the vacuum running!
If you’re a parent of a teen, you likely feel like like all you say is,
Clean up after yourself. Put that away. Move your shoes. Hang up your coat. No, you can’t have friends over. Do your homework. No phones at the dinner table. Turn down that racket. No more video games. Don’t come home late. Why did you come home so late???
Sometimes – more often than not – I feel like I sound like a broken record. He doesn’t even know what that saying means. There is no 2018 equivalent. I sound like a song that won’t download? No, that doesn’t work.
There are times when only my in-person threats and loud voice will get my point across, but….there are Bitmojis!
Of course I wouldn’t really taser him! But this Bitmoji paired with a “You Better…” message actually gets my point across.
When my kids were young – really young – we’d have Yes Days. Yes Days were when they could ask me anything (within reason) and I would say, YES! I started the Yes Days because I was so tired of No, of saying don’t do this, don’t do that, you can’t, you shouldn’t, no, no, no.
Yes Days were fun. Can we go to the park? YES!, Can we get popsicles? YES!, Can we watch another movie? YES!
My Bitmoji parenting is my equivalent to Yes Days.
So far they’re working.